choose yourself ;;

to all of you who are waiting to be chosen, choose yourself 🤍

We always wait

We humans are very emotional beings, we feel all range of emotions. I would call expectation as one too. We are just watch our life go sitting by side to see if anyone chooses us. Someone who is a friend, a romantic partner or what-else.

And hey patience is always good and waiting for the right moment is important too. But hey, when is the right moment? Right moment is when you step out of your comfort zone and decide what to do. And you also have another option, stay and wait until someone finds you. But what if no one does? Will you be all alone?

Friends, lovers, classmates, colleagues

You know expect when for a lover, most of us just would love a lot of friends. We just need company and people to share stuff and talk to. After all humans are social animals. And it's never wrong, but let's talk about reality. There are people like me out there with wide expectations to make friends and enjoy life but life has other plans, here I am with a few friends yes but hey my heart feels empty. And it's no one's fault but mine. Do you wanna know why?

Expectations

The thing is we all have ideal expectations of what our friends should be like, what our lovers should be like, this and that. When we don't get what we want you feel this shattering of all your beliefs and imagination. And who are we gonna blame? You who are human and expect things like a normal person or the people who see you as a friend or lover who don't meet your expectations? Exactly, it's no one's fault.

Take a look out of your expectations

Aren't you clouded by your expectations too much? Close your eyes and clear your mind. Of course having no expectations is nearly not possible but taking things positive is. Feeling content is always a option, you already have some friends, one or two. It doesn't matter be happy with the people who cherish you and choose them too. And hey you don't have friends? You have you, ?

you feel left out?

And let's focus on the first option we talked, stepping out of comfort zone and making friends, that's so cool isn't it? That's what you thought until you start feeling this agonizing feel of being left out even when you are with your friends. The thing is there are some possibilities of what is happening, one - they are doing it unintentionally, you know the answer to this problem : confrontation ! Second - They are doing this intentionally. Point to note, please first of all be aware of they are doing it intentionally and confront them before anything. And last - they probably aren't even doing anything and you feel it yourself without any cause. Hey, you are like me !

And this is not your fault. You are feeling this probably cause you aren't able to mingle with them and talk to them freely. Short, you are not that comfortable in talking with them as group. People like this are there and there is nothing wrong with you. It's better to talk out with your friends, they will understand and if they don't do you wanna know what to do?

Choose yourself

Now, I am not against the idea of having friends or colleagues. These relationships are very crucial in our life. I am just saying not to loose yourself over all these stuffs. Whenever these relationships drain you, change you in a bad way, make you feel neglected and unworthy. In my opinion these aren't true relationships, you should cut them off.

Cut them off and do what now? I am all alone.

You can always make new friends and colleagues. And you can wait and wait for someone to choose you and loose yourself in the process or choose yourself and focus of yourself and you can ultimately attract the relationships you want.

when you start choosing yourself, people will automatically choose you.

What do you do when you search for friends? I wait and sometimes I initiate and I repeated it until I got exhausted. And I realised I am focused too much on someone to choose me, when I always can choose myself.

Initiating is always good, do it. Trying to communicate is always good do it. Making friends, social circles and everything is important. But don't let the process consume your whole life. It's important to live for you than for the process.

Please that,

You can only be natural and be yourself when you focus on yourself. Your natural self is the one that attracts relationships.

Don't get consumed in searching for ones who will choose you but instead choose yourself :purple_heart: